5 Tips to Win Your Ex Back

Getting through a rough breakup can be a lot easier if you have a little help working out the details of what you’ll need to do to get your ex back. Sometimes just a helping hand can make all the difference…which is why I have 5 valuable pieces of advice to make this whole experience easier for you.

1. Breakup pain hurts, but it’s no reason to let your life pass you by. Letting your pain get the best of you and keep you from living your life only creates more problems for you to have to deal with. If you’re going to come out on top of all this, you’re going to need to find the strength to keep going regardless of how much pain you feel over this breakup. It’s natural to feel it, but don’t let it control you or hold you down.

2. Too many people seem to feel that drugs or alcohol are an easy way out from the pain, but in truth it’s just an escape that can damage you more than help you. Find healthy ways to deal with your broken heart…seek help in your friends and family, or things you enjoy.

3. Odd as it may sound, it’s actually a good idea to cut off contact with your ex for about a month after you two break up. This can really help your situation in a number of ways: it keeps more conflict from flaring up from all the emotion flying around, it gives you both time to evaluate your situations, and lets you form a plan for how you can most effectively get him back when the time is up, so that you don’t have to just do whatever comes naturally and hope it works. This no-contact term means no contact, period…no email, no text messaging, no phone calls…nothing.

4. Go by your head, not your heart. Emotional turmoil like this can lead you astray where your mind knows you shouldn’t go. Trust in a solid plan, not in whatever your first impulses are.

5. It’s possible that you and your ex aren’t destined by fate to be together forever. I’m not telling you to just give up, but if everything fails and it just doesn’t seem to be meant to be you may have to live with that. Be prepared for it, even though that may not end up being the case (it often isn’t!).

These 5 tips may not give you much comfort, but right now nothing probably will. If you heed their advice, however, they will show you the way to the right course of action. Never underestimate the power of having a helping hand, a plan…this is too tough of a situation to go it alone.

Probably the most important thing I can tell you is to have a plan. Going into this without an underlying strategy would be disasterous, as typically these situations don’t work the way they seem like they should. They can be tricky, so don’t get tricked! Use your month of freedom from your ex to work out a real plan, so you can know what you’re doing before you’re stuck staring your ex in the face and wondering what to do or say.

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