Divorce Advice For Men - 9 Important Tips
July 2, 2008 – 6:30 pmGiven a choice I suspect that all of us would like to get married and live happily ever after. Unfortunately this isn’t always possible and marriages break down and end in divorce. Unfortunately for you if you are going through a divorce it is quite likely that the woman you shared your life and dreams with is now trying to get every cent she can out of you. Here are some tips that may help you avoid a bad Divorce settlement.
1. This may come as a shock but lawyers want to make as much money out of your divorce as possible, this is their business. If they can make the divorce stretch out over a long time they will because they will earn more money. Find a lawyer that has been recommended to you. But remember the lawyer who got cousin Bobby off of that DUI charge may not be the one who should be handling your divorce. Find a divorce specialist with a good reputation.
2. Get your private and financial records into storage where only you have access to them .NOW! Also get a private post box where you can receive private mail
3. Close down all joint bank accounts and cancel credit cards held in both names. Also consider changing your personal credit cards to new ones as your wife may have kept a record of the numbers.
4. This may sound like a strange one and it may be the last thing you want to do but keep some lines of communication open with your wife. It may that one day she contacts you and says “hey let’s get this over with quickly and get on with our lives… what do you want to settle quickly” Additionally small problems can quickly escalate to major problems if everything has to go through a lawyer.
5. If you have kids this can be the hardest part of any divorce. Keep in contact with them and make sure that they know they are not to blame. Let them know that you are always there for them.
6. Do not destroy any old correspondence in a fit of rage or when you become emotional. The written word counts, the spoken word doesn’t in a court of law.
7. Do not pass nasty comments about your wife either to your friends or on her face. Your friends might snitch on you, or the word will get around and then the differences will be more irreconcilable. Why create bad blood, when there isn’t need for any?
8. Don’t be aggressive, remain calm. If your wife is an aggressive person, avoid getting into arguments with her.
9. Do you have a support system in your relations and friends? If yes, lean on them for emotional support.
Divorce can be a really horrible affair. There are many experts and lots of good advice available to you. Use this, search the internet for advice from people who know what they are talking about. There are several online products that can give you all the advice you need to ensure that you get what you want from the divorce not what your wife wants to give you.
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