by Alex Archer

Has the thought ever crossed your mind–my husband may be having an affair? There are a number of signs to look for without actually confronting him. The following things to look out for don’t necessarily mean that he’s cheating, but they may provide you with some clues if he is.

One of the signs of infidelity is that his stories seem suspicious. Does he tell elaborate tales about why he was late getting home from work? Do these excuses not quite make sense? If so, consider what this might mean.

On the other hand, maybe your husband has started buying you a lot of gifts lately. He may be uncharacteristically showering you with all sorts of nice things, not because of any newfound appreciation of you, but out of guilt for having an affair.

What if your husband starts picking fights with you more than usual? This is a warning sign that could have two explanations. He could be picking fights to deal with the guilt of his infidelity. Alternatively, it could be an excuse to storm off and head for his lover’s place.

If your husband has taken a newfound interest in making himself look good, ironing his clothes or drenching himself in sexy cologne, he many not be doing so for your benefit. Rather, this is yet another sign that he could be cleaning himself up for someone on the side.

“Where did all our quality time together go?” If you find yourself asking that question, it may be because your husband is spending more quality time with his mistress than with you. A lack of physical or emotional intimacy is a sign that your husband is cheating.

There are many other signs of infidelity in addition to these. Most importantly, though, it is important to trust your instincts. What is your gut reaction? Ask yourself why you’re suspicious in the first place – is it about his behavior or about your own insecurities?

If he is, in fact, cheating, remember that healing after an affair is possible. For most couples recovery is possible and the marriage can become better than it ever was. Take a long look at what you’ve put into your relationship before you decide to leave. And regardless of the outcome for your relationship, make sure to thoroughly address your feelings about the betrayal or the hurt will resurface in the future and cause more problems.

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