Getting Your Ex Back - Why A Hungry Dog Doesn’t Get Fed!

April 16, 2008 – 1:31 am
by Claire Tourney

Have you ever heard the proverbial old saw about “Why A Hungry Dog Doesn’t Get Fed?” The logic behind this phrase is important for you to understand right now if you really want to get back together with your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband and you have been acting a little desperate or needy.

Think about it. What would you do if a hungry mangy mutt showed up at your door? You probably know enough to shoo it away, because if you don’t and you feed it you will be stuck with that dog hanging around looking for a free handout and that dog will become a real nuisance. So you pick up the phone to call the Pound or the Humane Society instead.

But what happens if a handsome, well fed dog with a nice shiny collar happens to show up at the door instead? Well you admire that dog, but you know it doesn’t need you to feed it; it’s obviously well fed and groomed and probably just lost or wandering around checking out the neighborhood.

So you feel a sense of relief, you know you’re not responsible for taking care of that dog and you even think it might be nice to have a beautiful dog like that. Do you get the metaphor here? You don’t want to come across to your ex-lover as a “needy dog” - you need to be the handsome, well fed dog instead.

Exhibiting needy behaviors such as calling too much or begging and pleading with your ex to take you back only makes you seem like the “needy dog” to your ex lover and this will push them away even more.

As you can probably see these types of behaviors will not increase your attractiveness to your ex, but the important thing to realize is that people tend to want what they can’t have and if you are bothering them all the time looking for some emotional reassurance you certainly aren’t being the handsome dog they might admire but that’s just out of their reach.

You see people tend to like people who like themselves, who are emotionally secure and confident and don’t “need” someone else to make them happy.

So if you are serious about winning back the love of your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife, do yourself a favor and leave them alone for awhile while you get a handle on yourself and your emotions and cut loose the needy, desperate behaviors.

Then you’ll be ready to start planning a SMARTER strategy to get back with your ex.

About the Author:
Hi, I’m Claire Tourney and I’ve got some great tips on how you can get your self esteem and confidence back and get your ex back too. Discover a SMARTER strategy for winning back your lost lover by checking out my Squidoo lens Get Your Ex Back!

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