How To Get Your Ex Back - Get Your Emotional Equilibrium Back

April 8, 2008 – 6:59 am
by Claire Tourney

If you have recently been through a break up and have been wondering how to get your ex back, ask yourself instead how you are doing emotionally right now? If you find yourself crying all the time at every sad song you hear or over anything that reminds you of your ex lover it’s time to get yourself back together.

Being emotionally distraught may be all you can manage right now and while it will get you the attention you may feel you need, after awhile your ex, along with the other people in your life are going to get tired of the drama and wonder why you won’t make an effort to pull yourself together.

The Hollywood stereotype of the moody, depressed lover may be popular on the big screen, but it isn’t going to play well with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend.

And while you may not realize it, continuing to let your emotions run amuck can be a way of not facing the reality that there may be some things you need to change to have any chance of getting back together with your ex.

You also need to ask yourself if you are actually sad about the break up or are you ADDICTED to the feeling of sadness and heartbreak instead?

You really have to be careful here because intense emotions do release chemicals into our cells that become addictive over time and that’s part of the reason you find people continuing in the same patterns, the same dramas and the same mistakes. Their cells are actually looking for that intense emotional fix that they have become addicted to and this triggers behaviors that will cause the emotional state all over again.

The easiest remedy for this is to recognize when you are doing it. Sometimes we get so involved in our own dramas that we don’t realize what we are doing and that we are repeating the same cycles of behaviors over and over again. Once you catch yourself doing this a little light bulb in your brain goes off and you start to reverse the pattern.

This enables you to start feeling a little more in control and ready to take more positive steps to get your emotions balanced and self confidence back.

Be glad that you are getting smarter about your emotions and use this time away from your ex to work on yourself and what you need to change. Do things that make you happy and help you to feel better and stronger and not only will you have more confidence, but you will also become more attractive to your ex. Then you are ready to begin planning your strategy for getting your ex back - the SMART way!

About the Author:
Hi I’m Claire Tourney. Visit my Squidoo Lens How To Get Your Ex Back-The Smart Way to understand how your emotions may be hurting your chances of getting your ex back and to discover a PROVEN, effective plan for getting your ex back.

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