How To Get Your Ex Back - Why You Need A Cooling Off Period

April 9, 2008 – 1:19 am
by Claire Tourney

Just about any information you read about how to get your ex back advocates taking a step back from the relationship during or after a break-up and allowing a “cooling off” period that can last anywhere from a month or longer.

Now you may be wondering how taking a step back right now will help you to get your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend back.

Giving yourself a cooling off period allows you to get a handle on your emotional state and ride out the desperate, panicky feelings you may be experiencing right now.

It’s critical that you give yourself time to heal from the intense emotions that can surround a break up. You might still be raw from the experience and this can make it much more difficult to avoid the big blunders that will hurt your chances of getting back together with your ex.

If you take a needed step back it will also give you a chance to analyze what went wrong with the relationship so you know what you need to change, which is necessary if you are going to be smart about getting your ex back.

Now you might be afraid that if you don’t do something soon, if you don’t show your ex lover how much you care as soon as possible - it might be too late to ever recover. The truth is this will only upset your ex more.

So although your initial reaction to the break up may be to try and stay in contact, it will only do more damage to the situation right now. You have probably heard the phrase “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Well if you want to get your ex back you need to give them a chance to miss you first, and how can that happen if you won’t leave them alone?

And even if your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend takes up with someone else for awhile the majority of rebound relationships fail so if you are biding your time and following the right strategy this will only put the odds even more in your favor when it’s time for you to make your move.

You need your ex to feel that you respect them, and that you understand their concerns, and start to miss you. A cooling off period will allow these things to happen, and giving your ex space and room to breath right now will also help you to appear more collected, calm and mature, even if you don’t feel that way yet. These qualities will make you much more attractive to your ex, and it will be a lot easier to reopen the lines of communication when there’s been more time and distance between both of you.

So use this cooling off period to get your emotions back together and begin working on the areas you need to change and this will give you the advantage when it’s time to start working on a smarter strategy for getting your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend back.

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Hi I’m Claire Tourney. Use this cooling off period to your advantage and avoid the major mistakes most people make in trying to get their ex back. Check out my lens and discover a PROVEN, effective plan for How To Get Your Ex Back-The Smart Way!

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