To Get Your Ex Back, Slow Down

April 14, 2008 – 7:58 pm
by Molly Laws

You and your partner have recently broken up. After careful consideration you have decided that the two of you not being together is just wrong. The planets aren’t aligned that way. You belong together and you want to get your ex back.

Because you feel so strongly about the rightness of your relationship you may be tempted to immediately contact your ex. You want to phone your ex at home or at work. You want to show up in a place where you know he or she is likely to be. You want to initiate contact and then force your ex to listen to reason.

But this is a critical time. If you try to talk to your ex now, so soon after the break up, you could put an end to this relationship forever. It will be difficult for you but you must have patience, you have to wait.

The Split Happened for a Reason

There is a reason, or more than one, that you and ex have parted ways. This may all seem like a mistake to you but if you contact your ex now and demand to be heard you will only make the situation worse.

Difficult as it may be for you, now is the time to play the waiting game.

Only you can decide how long to wait before making contact with your ex. The circumstances of the break up can help you make the best decision.

If the problems that caused the split were long simmering, wait longer. If there was shouting, recriminations, anger at the time of the split, wait even longer.

Think about the kind of person your ex is and how long it may take him or her to cool off and calm down. When you are sure you know how long that period might be, double the time.

While You Wait, Look To Yourself

You have a waiting period to get through so use the time for some introspection and self-improvement.

Think about the cause of your break up and your part in it. When the time comes to talk to your ex you need to be able to acknowledge your mistakes and your faults. You need to be able to assure your ex that you are aware of your less attractive qualities and are already taking steps toward improvement.

Patience is key at this early stage. Practice self-control, don’t rush things and work to improve yourself and you have a great chance of not only getting your ex back but becoming a better person as well.

About the Author:
What can you do about getting your ex boyfriend back? Molly Laws provides tips and advice to help you get your ex back at http://www.get-your-lover-back.com/

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